Just wanted to share a quick thought. One of the most significant differences between my Female-led marriage and the marriages of other friends of mine is that there's a lot less friction.
My wife and I just don't fight. It's not that she wins all the fights because she's the boss, it's that by following her leadership, our priorities are aligned such that we don't come into conflict that much. When we do, she has the final word, and that's it. We both want the same things and work to get them.
I'm also not talking about right vs. wrong. If it's a question of right vs. wrong, then that must mean it's objective in nature, and then it's a matter of finding out the objectively correct answer.
The only area of conflict early on was that sometimes I have a legitimate issue that she doesn't want to address for some reason or another. From this, I learned that there are good and bad times to bring things up. I need to be ready far in advance to discuss things at the right time. You need to be more organized and make sure you're prioritizing things properly.
I'm sure it's different for every couple, but that's one thing that my wife and I have noticed. I'm curious if this is a common feature of D/s relationships.
I haven't thought about it, but I believe you are correct. With the wife in charge, our disagreements have been few and far between. Maybe it's because I now have a purpose and that's to anticipate her needs and serve her. I don't think as much about other things. When a decision needs to be made, I make it a point to discuss it with her and ask what she recommends we do. It certainly hasn't been perfect and I still fall short from time to time, but things certainly run a lot smoother around here.
ReplyDeleteHello Wishful4, sorry for the delay in replying (you can see why in my most recent post). I totally agree that thinking less about decisions and deferring to her makes (almost) everything smoother. As I mentioned tonight, nobody is perfect, but we owe it to our wives to try.
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